7 annoying weight-related comments you shouldn’t be saying

Weight questions

From weight loss to weight gain to eating disorders and body dysmorphic disorder, we all sometimes struggle to love and accept our bodies while also maintaining a healthy lifestyle, and some comments make this journey so much harder. Although they might be coming from a good place with pure intentions, they are sometimes the last thing a person needs. Below is an oversimplified guide to some of these questions and comments and why you should probably avoid them.

The kind of questions/comments not to say to someone who’s trying to gain weight

“الرفع مش حلو على فكرة”

“Being super skinny isn’t attractive”

Thin Girl

The odds are, they already know. Whether their weight is genetic or if it’s due to not eating enough, your comment will most likely only make things worse. Naturally skinny people are as insecure about their body image as those who are overweight. They didn’t ask to be super thin and shouldn’t be made to feel bad about it. Your comment won’t really help those with an eating disorder either.

The odds are, they already know. Whether their weight is genetic or if it’s due to not eating enough, your comment will most likely only make things worse. Naturally skinny people are as insecure about their body image as those who are overweight. They didn’t ask to be super thin and shouldn’t be made to feel bad about it. Your comment won’t really help those with an eating disorder either.

“انت خسيت قوي! بتعمل ايه؟” OR “انت مش بتتخن ليه؟”

“ You have gotten skinnier, what do you do?!”

It is always assumed that telling someone they lost weight is the ultimate compliment, but that’s not always the case. Saying that to someone who is trying to put on a few kilograms may destroy all their motivation.

“هو انت بتاكل؟”

“Do you eat at all?”

Annouing Weight Questions

This question doesn’t make a lot of sense. Whether you get a “yes” or a “no” there isn’t much you can do about it. You either touch on the topic of their eating disorder or you remind them that no matter how much they eat they never seem to gain weight.

The kind of questions/comments not to say to someone who’s trying to lose weight

“ما كفاية عليك كدة عشان الدايت”

“Are you sure you want to eat that?”

Junk Food

While your concerns may be their health and diet, this type of comment is usually perceived as condescending and invasive. This may be their first “cheat meal” in months and they probably worked so hard to “earn it”, so it is not really anyone’s place to tell them what they should or should not be eating. Also, everyone deserves a treat every once in a while.

“لو مخستيش محدش هيرضى يتجوزك”OR “مش هتلاقي شغل وانت/ي تخين/ة”

“No one’s going to want to marry you if you’re this fat” or “You won’t find a job until you lose weight”

desperate girl

Comments like this are just rude and insensitive. Even though the person saying them may be genuinely concerned for their “wellbeing”, it’s just very hard to see it this way. Making someone feel like he or she is not good enough or that he or she will never be accepted by the society if they don’t look a certain way really isn’t helpful. Plus, you don’t need to constantly remind them of what they already know.

“هاا .. فاضلك كام كيلو؟”

“How much do you still want to lose?”

personal trainer

This might be it; they may have already reached their goal weight. You asking that is basically you telling them that they still need to lose weight and that they’re still not “thin enough”.

“انتي احلويتي قوي! ” or “شكلك كده احلى بكتير”

“You look so much better now!” Or “You look amazing!”

Now this one is as innocent and sweet as it gets. Only trouble is this can make them feel like they weren’t good enough before or that you love them more because they lost weight.

To sum it all up, if you don’t really know a person, don’t comment on their weight. You have no idea what they’re going through or what battles they’re fighting and what effect your little comment may have. If your friend is trying to gain or lose weight, be supportive without putting too much stress on why or how their weight affects who they are. Make sure they know that you love and support them regardless and that you’re more concerned about their health and happiness than you are about their weight or how they look.

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